{"id":582,"date":"2007-11-12T20:50:54","date_gmt":"2007-11-12T19:50:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/vaeter-und-karriere.de\/blog\/index.php\/2007\/11\/12\/charlie-leduff-on-life-as-a-stay-at-home-dad\/"},"modified":"2007-11-12T20:50:54","modified_gmt":"2007-11-12T19:50:54","slug":"charlie-leduff-on-life-as-a-stay-at-home-dad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vaeter-und-karriere.de\/blog\/index.php\/2007\/11\/12\/charlie-leduff-on-life-as-a-stay-at-home-dad\/","title":{"rendered":"Charlie LeDuff on life as a stay-at-home dad"},"content":{"rendered":"

Was bringt einen Pulitzer Preistr\u00e4ger, der f\u00fcr die Ney York Times<\/a> von den (Krisen-) Schaupl\u00e4tzen der Welt berichtete dazu, sich als \u201astay at home dad\u2019 um seine Tochter zu k\u00fcmmern?<\/span><\/p>\n

In der aktuellen Ausgabe von \u201aMen\u2019s Vogue<\/a>\u2019 beschreibt Charlie LeDuff sehr einf\u00fchlsam seinen Alltag und seine Gef\u00fchle abseits von den Kriegsschaupl\u00e4tzen und den Scheinwerfern der allt\u00e4glichen Aufmerksamkeit.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201a\u2026 Before my daughter was born, men my age were happy to lather on the unsolicited advice about what being a dad would be like. I would eventually come to find that it wasn’t really advice at all, but rather a sort of superficial observation, masculine margarine about what it feels like to be the Fatherly Influence. \u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

Now I am another creature altogether. I am a stay- at-home dad. <\/span><\/p>\n

Allow me an obvious qualification here: It is the patriarch’s blessing to watch his baby’s eyes slowly transform from black to hazel (the eyebrows come later, in case you don’t know). There is the moment when the little beast has figured out how to stand on her own wobbly legs with the help of a chair, or when the first tooth breaks through, or when she mistakenly suckles your nose. <\/span><\/p>\n

These are the good parts. She is 11 months old now and changing fast. I am deeply glad I was there for those things you can never get back once they’re gone. \u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

A man in my neighborhood who was painting a house stopped painting as he saw me leaning into the perambulator, trying to coax the little howler to sleep. His name was Jose. He was older and wore overalls and paint speckles. This man offered me something so deep, so penetrating, I wrote it down. <\/span><\/p>\n

„The whole world is in your brazos<\/em> there, amigo,“ he said, pointing to the carriage. „That little girl is your world and your future and your blood. That is your hair and your eyes\u2014I can see. A man, if he is truly a man, does what God asks him to do. To honor his family.“ <\/span><\/p>\n

„I know this,“ I say, fascinated that the stranger could decipher me from across a street. „But it is hard sometimes for me to be happy about it.“ <\/span><\/p>\n

„Ah. Sometimes you see this duty as women’s work?“ <\/span><\/p>\n

„Yes,“ I say. „They must be better at it.“ <\/span><\/p>\n

„This does not matter,“ he tells me. „You must be better. If not the woman then the man, yes? This is preferable to the stranger who is not truly able to give the child love.“ <\/span><\/p>\n

He said it just like that. The nut graph, we call it in journalism. The point of the story. Jose articulated the thing my friends\u2014the go-to-work dads\u2014were not able, or not willing, to tell me: You have to decide if the child is more important than the stature, the action, the money. If she is, you must accept it and get on with the routine. …‘ <\/span><\/p>\n

Die ganze Story finden Sie hier<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Was bringt einen Pulitzer Preistr\u00e4ger, der f\u00fcr die Ney York Times von den (Krisen-) Schaupl\u00e4tzen der Welt berichtete dazu, sich als \u201astay at home dad\u2019 um seine Tochter zu k\u00fcmmern? In der aktuellen Ausgabe von \u201aMen\u2019s Vogue\u2019 beschreibt Charlie LeDuff sehr einf\u00fchlsam seinen Alltag und seine Gef\u00fchle abseits von den Kriegsschaupl\u00e4tzen und den Scheinwerfern der […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[43],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/vaeter-und-karriere.de\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/582"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/vaeter-und-karriere.de\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/vaeter-und-karriere.de\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vaeter-und-karriere.de\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vaeter-und-karriere.de\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=582"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/vaeter-und-karriere.de\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/582\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/vaeter-und-karriere.de\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=582"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vaeter-und-karriere.de\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=582"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vaeter-und-karriere.de\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=582"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}